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Happy Valentine’s Day! This can be a depressing holiday. OR, you can make it amazing! Here to help out is Mister Thomas William Hiddleston along with William Shakespeare, Andrew Marvell, and Max Ehrmann, among others.
For some romance:
The Princess: Now Sleeps the Crimson Petal by Alfred, Lord Tennyson (x)
- Sonnet 18 by William Shakespeare (x)
- To His Coy Mistress by Andrew Marvell (x)
- may i feel said he by e e cummings (x)
- Sonnet 130 by William Shakespeare (x)
- Love and Friendship by Emily Brontë (x)
Feeling the need to protest romance:
- Sigh No More by William Shakespeare (x)
Love your neighbor and don’t forget to love yourself:
- Desiderata by Max Ehrmann (x)
With love, Alexis
"Some people have been a bit obsessive about attributing responsibility for things that have happened in their life to me. You want to say: "Bless you for saying those nice things, but I’ve done nothing." You sort of have to talk them off the ledge a bit. But that’s the nature of obsession. I know a lot of other actors who’ve dealt with it."
Tom Hiddleston Interview - Time Out Magazine Issue Feb 11-17 2014
I want to juxtapose this image from the behind the scenes video from the Donmar Warehouse with the quote from a magazine interview he gave.
That does not look like the dressing room of a man who thinks all his fans are crazy. His mirror is surrounded by notes and cards, several of them with letter length writing on them. I know one tumblr user identified the doll she had sent him. He obviously is comfortable with many of his fan interactions.
You have to remember though that this interview is being given at the end of a long run at the Donmar, and though many of his fan interactions there have been positive, a small but not insignificant number of them have been with fans who have followed him, ignored requests to disperse, and have insisted on interactions that he did not want to engage in. He has to realize at least part of his fan-base, hopefully an incredibly small percentage of them, do not understand boundaries.
But obsessive, and I think that’s the word so many people are twigging to, combined with his using the phrase ‘talk them off the ledge,’ makes it sound likes he thinks we’re all crazy.
I think the key words here are ‘some,’ as in not all, and ‘attributing responsibility.” You know how much Tom loves Latin, right? Well, responsibility comes from the Latin respondere ”respond, answer to, promise in return,” and spondee, the word involved in the latin respondere refers to a specific sort of verse that accompanied ritual libations in which promises and bindings are made.
If I’m reading this right, and I think this works from a Christian perspective as well as a Classical one, the thing he objects to is people saying that he caused the change in their life. I’ve seen people do this with God, giving Him responsibility for what’s going on in their life - both the good and the bad. You want to shake these people and say, “No, it’s not God’s will that your husband beats you up three times a week.” But then they point to the Bible and say, “Well, that’s the way it’s supposed to be and if God wanted it to change, He would change something.”
Tom’s not objecting to being an inspiration for the person to change themselves and their circumstances, but to the idea that he himself caused the change to happen. And this is smart, first, because he is not a god, he just plays one, and secondly, because when you attribute all the good in your life to being caused by someone else, at what point do you start blaming him as well? When do we start calling out, “My Tom, my Tom, why hast thou forsaken me?” Sometimes shit happens, and no one is responsible for it. Sometimes good happens too, and no one is responsible for it. Life happens, and it’s up to us to deal with it.
Did he inspire you to start writing, and through your writing you found tumblr and a new batch of friends? That’s great. Did he call up all those friends and say, “Hey, I’ve got this fan and I need you to be her friend so her life will be better and so here’s her tumblr so you can follow her and leave effusive comments on everything she writes,” and your life magically got better because of his direct intervention. Nope.
Did seeing him act give you the kick in the ass you needed to go back to school/start running/become an artist/be honest with yourself/etc.? Lovely. But you know who actually did all of those things? You. Tom is an inspiration. He is not a causal agent. You have to act on the inspiration you find in him. He needs you as an audience, not a worshipper. He is not fixing your life. You are fixing your life. And maybe your second life begins (to borrow Tom’s quote) when you realize that you are in charge of your own destiny, not him.
Has my life changed because of Tom Hiddleston? Yes. Did he cause that change? Nope. I did, because I hit the post button. It’s like he’s a waiter in a restaurant and he flipped the menu over for you and let you see there was a whole new array of options you didn’t know existed before but they’re all written in a language you don’t understand. You have to be brave enough to leave the familiar behind and set sail for an unknown shore.
Nothing else ever needs to be said on the matter.
Hiddlestoner Dos and Don’ts
- fangirl over his physical attractiveness and personality quirks
- show appreciation and/or polite criticism for his work as an actor
- show your love by making edits, graphics and drawings of him
- send him polite fanmails and tweets
- be grateful if you get a reply
- ask him politely for an autograph or selfie with you
- be grateful if he complies
- learn from him how to be a good person
- understand the simple fact that he is human just like you
- think about the many sacrifices he has to make as a celebrity
- want Tom to be happy
- BE FUCKING GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING HE DOES TO HUMOUR HIS FANS
- send him rude and/or creepy fanmails and tweets
- get mad when he does not reply
- expect him to take selfies with you or sign autographs for you honestly he is not obligated to do this
- get mad when he says no
- stalk him
- chase after him omfg what’s wrong with you
- put him on a pedestal
- think he puts up with everything and nothing can hurt his feelings
- think you own him
- think he owes you anything
- hate on any potential Mrs Hiddleston
- BE AN INSANE AND DEMANDING POTATO AND EXPECT TOM TO CATER TO YOUR EVERY DESIRE
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I do not pretend to create a controversy guys, but I am personally really upset with the Time Out Magazine interview. Tom sounds really pissed. We all know that most of the magazines tend to lie a little bit in every issue, but I would not be surprised by that being Tom’s own words. I mean, I do…
Tom Hiddleston, he has this hole in his cellar. I mean I say hole, it’s more like a dungeon really. It’s where he puts people who insist on calling him Loki all the time.”
— Mark Strong (x)
I don’t want to sound like a twat, but sometimes you just don’t want to stop and take a selfie.”
Tom Hiddleston, Time Out Magazine Feb 11th 2014
Oh hun, give yourself a round of applause because it’s about damn time you started sticking up for yourself.
Crazy stalking fangirls, he means you
I think everyone in this fanbase needs to read this, memorize it, live it.
Tom’s not being his cheerful self lately. Now whenever I see his old pictures I feel sad. Please Tom have some rest.